I believe that the word “bully” evokes different emotions and attitudes in each person because of the extensive variations of its effects on children. After reading several varying definitions of “bullying,” I have chosen the stopbullying.gov definition because of its inclusive description of “bullying.” “Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school-aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time.”
A kid-friendly definition of “bullying” is when someone is being harmed either by words or actions on purpose, usually more than once, feels distressed because of it, and has a hard time stopping what is happening to them.
Below is a list of different categories of bullying and various instances of each type.
- making fun of someone
- laughing at someone
- leaving someone out on purpose
- starting rumors or telling lies about someone
- sending mean messages on a computer or cell phone
- trying to make someone feel wrong about who they are
- pushing and shoving
- yelling at someone
- making rude gestures
- taking or breaking another person’s things
While many parents, teachers, and children are more familiar with both physical and emotional bullying, in the age of the internet, it is important to recognize the growing presence of bullying that happens online. Children now have access to smart-phones, laptops, and iPads and may have social media accounts that can expand the “spaces” in which they can become targets or become a bully themselves. So, what exactly is the technical definition of Cyberbullying? Using technology—internet, email, cell phones, social media, pictures— to hurt or harm someone else.
Bottom line, children deserve to feel safe in a violence-free atmosphere both at home and at school. So it’s our responsibility to educate ourselves and children about bullying.
One of the best ways to reduce bullying at your programs is by educating the students about bullying and having open discussions around the topic, a few ideas below:
- restorative circles
- one on one discussions
- parent involvement discussions
- show a film about bullying and host a Q & A
- have upperclassmen share their experiences with bullying and then have students participate in a Q & A
I hope these ideas are useful, please leave your ideas in the comment box!
For breakfast, I had a big cup of Dunkin Donuts coffee with an egg sandwich.